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Where Are You?
& Where Art Thou?
Where are you, personally, when it comes to finding the love of your life and where do you find them?
by Bart Smith
TODAY MORE THAN EVER, so many men and women have either tried their hand at love and lost (once, twice or several times) or have never even had the chance at finding love, experiencing romance or deep intimacy, finding someone of true quality or anyone seriously interested in something longer than a 1-night, 2-week or 3-month stand. So, they either give up (looking for love/romance) until they get over what they've experienced and feel they can jump back into the dating game again or conclude to themselves in their silence of quiet desperation ... "I'm just destined to die alone!"
308 pages of sharp,
relationship wisdom …
If you're like the millions of singles out there today looking for love and don't know how to improve your odds at finding love, well, this book is for you. Not only will it help protect your heart, mind, body and your bank account, while looking for love, it'll give you great insights into relationships and how to attract one so you find love faster than you ever could before ...
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
After reading this book, here's what you’ll walk away with:
1. Take an honest look at where you are personally, emotionally, mentally and relationally before trying to find the love of your life.
2. Stop guessing your way through dating and start approaching love with more clarity, self-awareness, patience, standards and preparation.
3. Understand what you truly want in a soulmate so you can better recognize who is right for you, who is wrong for you and who deserves more of your time.
4. Learn how to vet someone more carefully before giving away your heart, time, trust, body, energy or future.
5. Strengthen yourself first so you bring more confidence, maturity, direction, emotional readiness and personal value into a future relationship.
6. Navigate today’s confusing dating landscape with more wisdom instead of getting pulled into dead-end relationships, casual flings, mixed signals or repeated disappointment.
7. Move from “Where are you?” to “Where art thou?” by knowing yourself better, looking more intentionally and choosing someone who has real long-term love potential.
PREVIEW THIS BOOK
Take a peek inside this book and see just what's in store for you when you get this book in hand or listen to the audio version of the book.
BOOK CONTENTS
Author of five relationship books, Bart Smith is afraid for both men and women who long to find love and romance in this crazy, wack world. TODAY MORE THAN EVER, so many men and women have either tried their hand at love and lost (once, twice or several times) or have never even had the chance at finding love, experiencing romance or deep intimacy, finding someone of true quality or anyone seriously interested in something longer than a 1-night, 2-week or 3-month stand. So, they either give up (looking for love/romance) until they get over what they've experienced and feel they can jump back into the dating game again or conclude to themselves in their silence of quiet desperation ... "I'm just destined to die alone!"
If you are one of the millions of singles out there who have suffered from loneliness, repeated rejection, unwanted sexual advancements or a lack of warm, romantic sexual intimacy, along with an isolated heart when it comes to finding real romantic love in this world, then this book is for you. I wrote it with the aim of helping those like you who may have gone on dozens of dates (or no dates) and you're still single looking for love. This book was written to give you a vast array of relationship insight and wisdom needed to (not only) find love, but also real knowledge on how to protect your heart, your body, your mind, your bank account and your future while on your journey to finding THE ONE for you!
PART 1
WHERE ARE YOU?
A Look Inward, Back
Some & Always Forward
PART 1.1
LET’S GET STARTED … WITH YOU!
Where Are You In Your Search For Love?
(On track? Discouraged?
Found love? Still on the hunt?
Feeling hopeless? Started
looking again? Where
are you at???)
What’s Been Your Experience?
(Okay? Good? Bad? Great?
Not so great? Horrible?
Non-existent?)
The Student & The Teacher
(Which one are you? Actually,
we’re both! A good thing!)
We All Have The
Potential To Find Love,
To Love & Be Loved
(Let’s go over why, how
and give ourselves
some hope!)
PART 1.2
SELF-ASSESSMENT
We All Have The
Potential To Find Love,
To Love & Be Loved
(Let’s go over why, how and
give ourselves some hope!)
10+ Reasons That Might
Be Keeping You Single &
You Didn’t Know It!
(How to change that
for the better!)
Get To Know “All About You” Before You
Go Out “Looking For The One” For You!
(Take my in-depth self-assessment survey!)
PART 1.3
PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
Personal, Self-Care &
Self-Love Always
Comes First!
(Here’s why and how!)
Evaluate, Cultivate
& Enhance The
8 ‘Ly’s About You
(Mentally, Psychologically, Intellectually,
Emotionally, Physically, Financially, Spiritually
and even Geographically? Let’s discuss…)
Internal & External Improvements
(Let’s see where and what we could improve upon …)
STOP! Doing These Things
(You’ll greatly improve the act
of finding/keeping love in your life!)
SEX! What You Need
To Know & Keep Close
To Your Heart
(When it comes to sex, yes,
you’re going to want to hear
this!) 10+ Rules About
Money You Should Know &
Live By (Before entering
a relationship with the
love of your life!)
Many People Don’t
Know What They Want
In A Relationship
or What They’re Missing Out
On, Because They've Never
Had Experienced Certain
Things or Been Told
What’s Possible!
(Let me explain so you can
have these experiences too!)
What Should You Bring To
The Relationship Table?
(Specifically, here’s what and
why you should come equipped …)
PART 1.4
READING, LISTENING &
WATCHING ASSIGNMENTS
Bart’s Relationship & Personal B.S. Books and Cookbook & Why You Should Read Them, Listen To The Audio Books, Watch His Videos & Cooking Lessons & Live By Everything He Tells You! (Relationships, avoiding PERSONAL B.S. and Bart’s Cookbook!)
PART 1.5
YOUR “ROMANTIC LOVE LIFE”
JOURNEY HOMEWORK
PART 2
WHERE ART THOU?
The Love Of Your
Life, That Is?
PART 2.1
FINDING & VETTING THE FUTURE
“LOVE OF YOUR LIFE”
Single & Ready To Mingle?
Yes? No? Scared? Let’s Go!
(Before you head out,
there’s a lot we need to
discuss, such as …)
WHO Should You Go After? QUALITIES Of “The One”
& What They Should Be Able To Bring To The Table!
(Remember, it takes two to tango! So, here’s what the
love of your life should bring to the relationship table!)
What Do Men Want In A Woman / Girlfriend / Wife?
What Do Women Want In A
Man / Boyfriend / Husband?
(Aspire to meet these characteristics
and improve your odds!)
Dating In/Out Of Your
Race/Culture/Community
(I’ll share my thoughts on
the matter having had my
own experiences and
from what I’ve read/heard
from others!)
The “ATTRACTION FACTOR”
Are Looks Everything?
Uh, NO!
(Here’s what really
attracts men and
women to each other!)
7 Ways To VET The Future
Love Of Your Life
(To protect your time,
your heart, your money
and your body!)
PART 2.2
GETTING OUT THERE &
INTERACTING WITH & ATTRACTING
THE FUTURE “LOVE OF YOUR LIFE!”
Warnings, Safeguards
& Precautions
(Trust no one, suspect
everyone! Here’s why
and how!)
50+ Modern Dating Terms & Definitions
(Would be nice to learn the lingo before you head out!)
Dating Lies, Myths,
Half-Truths &
Truths Be Told!
(I really want to bust through
a lot of this with you!)
Getting Out There & Finding “The One!”
(Here’s where, when and
how to do just that!)
Dating Rules, Ideas, Scenarios, Sample
Scripts/Questions
Safe Dating Tips For Both Men & Women
(You can never be too careful in today’s dating age!)
101+ Deal Breakers,
Non-Negotiables,
Bendables & Flexibles
(Forget red flags, maybe
get outta there even if
it’s ORANGE!”)
PART 2.3
NEW SELF-ASSESSMENTS & PERSONAL GROWTH STAGES BEFORE, DURING & AFTER RELATIONSHIPS END
How's It Going So Far?
(Find anyone yet?
Yes, no, maybe?)
Why Things Do/Don't
Work Out & How To
Handle Breaking Up
(My thoughts about why
couples stay together and
don’t, and how both of
you should handle breaking
up if it comes to that.)
Why Things “Don’t”
Work Out & How To Deal
With Break Ups
If They Break Up With
You What Did You Learn
While You Were In That
Past Relationship?
What If Things “ARE” Working Out?
Is Breaking Up Inevitable?
Is Staying Together
On The Table?
Are You Both Prepared
To Take The Next Big
Relationship Step?
3-Point “Are We Ready?” Test
21 Habits Of Happy Couples
What Have You Learned
& What Should You
Improve Upon?
(Well, let’s take a look!
There’s bound to be
some lessons so far!)
Are You Both Prepared
To Take The Next Big Relationship Step?
PART 2.4
GOING FORWARD & ALWAYS
LOOKING AHEAD FOR LOVE!
Did You Find The One For
You? Yes? No? Not Yet?
(Here's what to do and how to
go about it at this stage!)
Are You Still Looking For
“The One” For You?
(Here's how to stay positive
and accelerate the process!)
SUMMARY & WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT
BOOK EXCERPTS
To pique your curiosity about this book, check out these hand-picked excerpts that come right out of the book. If you like what you read, then you'll definitely love the book to read in-hand.
AUDIO EXCERPTS
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RAVE REVIEWS
“This book a must-read for every woman who ever dreams of falling in love with a good man, the right man, a loving man, one day. While nothing’s guaranteed in life and in dating and relationships, the woman who reads this book and adheres to every bit of advice Bart’s packed in between these covers, wow, she will not only save herself potential pain, heartache and struggle that runs rampant throughout today’s dating scene, but she’ll also grow personally, learn more about what she wants for herself, where love is concerned, and amazingly so much more. I just wish I had this book when I started high school and when I was in college! I’m in my late 20’s now and I would have avoided so much of what I have just described (i.e., pain, heartache, struggle). Ladies, you have nothing to lose by reading this book and everything to gain. You owe to your heart and your future love life.” – April F. (Las Vegas, NV)
“I’ve been on the dating scene for 10+ years; never been married; want to find a woman who is my queen who I can love and cherish forever. Problem is? I’ve never dated. I’ve never had good luck with women. I don’t know where to start and I didn’t know how to even act on a date if I got the chance. Because I’ve never had these opportunities, I don’t know anything about having a relationship with a woman. Bart’s book opened my mind and my eyes to how it all goes down and how I need to be myself, so long as I’m patient, kind, understanding, have a romantic desire to give to the right woman I meet. Bart even gave me conversation tips and questions to ask, a script almost. I love that. Now, I’m not nervous and I see there’s hope in my future for finding love too.” – Sean C. (Irvine, CA)
AUTHOR MESSAGE
Great title, eh? Where Are You? & Where Art Thou? When I came up with it, here’s what I was thinking: FOR STARTERS, “Bart, you already have five great relationship books, why do you need to write another one and how will it be different?” Well, while ALL my books are great on their own, absolutely, what I really needed was ONE book that could bring ALL my books together and highlight where we are (currently) in the world of dating and how we can find “the one” true love of our life. Then, the book title hit me! I then opened my graphic design program (Affinity Designer) and had a ball designing the front cover. Once the cover was designed, I started accumulating my notes and I started writing.
“WHERE ARE YOU?” on your journey of finding someone to fall in love with and really love throughout a long-term, romantic experience for life? Sure, perhaps, you’ve had your fair share of false starts, short-term romances, etc. Most everyone has. The trouble is, so many today are facing too many false starts that never turn into anything long term except for regrets. What stage are you at in finding the one for you? Are you single, divorced, never married, widowed? No matter what stage you’re at, this book has so much to offer you.
“WHERE ART THOU?” Where is that person? Where is he/she hiding? Why haven’t you bumped into them yet or been introduced? Why have you encountered so many who haven’t been able to live up to what you want in a long-term, loving relationship? Is our world becoming devoid of quality people? I hope not. In fact, we’ve still go time to turn this sad state around.
BELIEVE IT OR NOT, THIS BOOK IS YOUR BEST CHANCE at finding “the one” love of your life. Why and how? Because, this one book helps (#1) properly prepare you to meet that special someone so that once you meet him/her you keep them (or quickly deflect/reject them). Then, once in their presence you can (#2) quickly sum them up and inform them on what you’re looking for with almost surgical precision so you don’t waste time, energy, money, personal sacrifice, etc.
FINDING THE ONE FOR YOU, YES, IS A NUMBERS GAME, KINDA. So much in life is; no getting around that. The trick is to (#1) not get hurt (too much) in the process or (#2) waste your time prospecting for the love of your life, but (#3) to know exactly what you want, (#4) attract the right people into your life to choose from and (#5) know how to take someone from that first, “hello,” to “I do” or whatever form of relationship you both choose to develop. Right?
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