In Chapter Four of my book, Laws Of The Bedroom, I discuss how men can develop a more romantic nature and continue expressing deep affection throughout their relationships. One of my favorite principles is that romance should never be rushed.

Take your time and truly enjoy being together. Think about the specific things your lady especially appreciates, and make a conscious effort to incorporate them into your everyday life. Hold her hand while you walk together. Surprise her with a thoughtful note. Remember her favorite flowers, and plan an evening centered entirely around something she loves to do. Most importantly, never forget to explicitly tell her how much she means to you.

A loving relationship isn't maintained by assuming your lady remembers how affectionate you were five or ten years ago. Show her how affectionate you still are today!

Let me tell you a story from my book. I knew a guy who met his wife right after she finished work and completely blindsided her with an unexpected getaway. He’d already packed her favorite casual clothes, handled the necessities, booked the spot, and mapped out the whole weekend. Instead of driving her home for another completely ordinary evening, he took her straight to a beautiful boat-and-breakfast retreat aboard a luxury vessel docked near Catalina.

For two days, they had nothing but the ocean, the scenery, and the space to focus entirely on each other—zero household responsibilities, zero noise. Now, that is how you romance your woman. But what I love most about this story isn't that the guy threw money at a trip. It's that he invested real time thinking, planning, and executing something he knew his lady would love. The sheer thoughtfulness behind it is what made it unforgettable.

Of course, use some common sense here. Make sure a surprise actually fits your gal's personality, her schedule, and her comfort level. The goal is to thrill her, not stress her out because she missed a deadline or forgot to feed the cat.

Look, you don’t need to pack a bag and book an overnight trip just to have a romantic evening. Learn how to cook one of her favorite meals. Set a nice table, put on some music you both actually like, turn off the damn phones, and just spend the night talking, laughing, and being together. Or, get in the car and drive somewhere you’ve never been. Go explore a nearby town, take a walk outside, find a new restaurant, or head back to a spot that holds great memories for the two of you.

In my book, I tell guys to tap into the music you listened to when you first fell in love, the places you went, and the things that brought you together in the first place. Recreating one of those moments reminds both of you of something vital: your relationship has a history that is worth celebrating.

And let me give you one more piece of straight talk: stop making every single romantic gesture about sex. Sometimes, the most powerful way to show your woman you love her is to just enjoy her company, with zero strings attached and absolutely no expectations.

Romance isn't a temporary performance you put on just to win a woman over, only to completely abandon it once she’s yours. It’s an attitude you bring into everyday life. Be thoughtful. Be spontaneous. Show her affection, create real memories, laugh together, and surprise her when she least expects it. Never get so comfortable or familiar with your lady that you forget exactly how incredible it felt when the two of you first fell in love. Gentlemen, don't just sit back and reminisce about how you romanced her in the beginning. Get up and give her new reasons to fall in love with you all over again today.